Even with all the Deep Understanding, Acceptance, Unconditional Love, and Respect in the world parenting little humans is challenging. Especially in this world which has become less child-friendly every year. And especially #neurodivergent ones. Oh, the stories I could and have told about the crap that society puts on us.
Unfortunately, there is very little you can do about that. Culture and society change slowly…very slowly. And right now if anything the tide is against us.
So the only thing you can do is make the best of it. Create in your home a place that is safe for your little human, your whole family, and yourself. I use the words…Refuge and Fortress…to describe it.
This is our home…and OUR rules.
If you don’t like it, then…
Don’t let the knob hit you where the good goddess split you.
Our pantry is best example of that. All the little humans that visit regularly know that at #HomeCrazzyHome, you don’t have to ask Auntie T if you want a drink, or crisps/chips, or candy. You walk into the pantry and get it. No questions asked…and no demands for a ‘Thank You’. (Though I get enough genuine ones to know how much they appreciate it.)
And if you are the parent…and you worry about sugars in Fruit Shoot or colors…or perfect nutrition…well, dat is just tough.
@HomeCrazzyHome little humans rule…as long as they are as kind to one another as they can be and it is not a danger to Health & Safety.
But perhaps even more important than the pantry is the fact that #HomeCrazzyHome is a place filled with LAUGHTER.
Not AT anyone…but with them.
You see growing up I heard these words often…
Sometimes if you don’t laugh, you’re gonna cry!
And when it comes to #neurodivergence truer words were never spoken. So we laugh…A LOT.
PanKwake even makes PrankWake videos of it…like these…
Friends often ask…but aren’t you just acting? My answer is…only a little bit. I do act…not for the camera but for her. And for us. It releases the tensions that even in the best of circumstances will build up when three very different people with divergent needs live and love under the same roof…even one as big as #HomeCrazzyHome. So yes…as those closest to us know…that is very much what life around here is like.
But isn’t it better than fighting and screaming at one another. I can often get PanKwake to do things more easily by joking that she can’t than by all the demands in the world. And as that saying goes…laughing is most definitely better than crying.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words…so then what is a YouTube video worth?
The truth is that there really is no way I can describe the level of Crazzy at #HomeCrazzyHome. Though I have done my best to warn people that they are entering the CrazzyZone in our vestibule.
Yes, we have an old computer rack that has been repurposed as a coat rack. And yes, I made a wall quilt that broadcasts our Crazzy to the world. So I hope that people get the general idea before they even come through the door.
Oh there is another saying I forgot…
Laughter is the best medicine!
Of course, we don’t believe that #autism is a disease or a disorder or a condition. It is just a different way of thinking, feeling, and being. And we certainly don’t think it needs therapies, treatments, or cures. Nonetheless…a good laugh can’t hurt.
And there are plenty of those @HomeCrazzyHome.
PanKwake and I often say that #HomeCrazzyHome should be a reality TV show. We believe that would do more than anything to teach the ideals of #Understanding and #Acceptance for #neurodivergence and #HomeEd #RadiCoolUnschooling. Cookie Monster though fears that they would lock us away…that we are just THAT Crazzy.
Personally, when you look at the state of this world…I think we are the SANE ones.